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Holding on in a different way – Family Activity
- Poster board or cardboard
- Vision board decorations (cereal boxes, paper plates, old magazines, photos, drawings)
- Scissors and glue
- Computer – if you want to create a digital vision board to print
Hold on to your special person in different ways—in your heart, mind, body, spirit, and behaviors! A vision board can help creatively plan or dream up ideas on why and how we want to hold on to our special person who died. Create one together as a family and put it up in a common space as a reminder that you are connected and are still holding on…in different ways.
- Why do we want to hold on? (love, memories, honor, hope, legacy, etc.)
- How do we want to hold on? (consider heart, mind, body, spirit, and behaviors)
Connect to Shared Values – Youth Activity Ages 13 – Adult
What are your values? Values act as an inner compass that helps us stay connected to who we are and who we want to be. Find a values list online or use this one by Brene Brown.
Often times, special people in our life can impact our values in significant ways.
Draw or print a template of any tree you like (palm tree, oak tree, cactus, pine tree). Consider each part of the tree: roots, trunk, and branches. Based on the each section of the tree, define where your special person fits into your values.
- Roots: What are the values that your parents, guardians, and/or other significant people in your life passed to you?
- Trunk: What are the values that have come from your friends, school/work, books, faith, or life experiences?
- Branches: What are the values you want to grow in your life?
Write these values on your tree, highlighting them in a way that is meaningful or creatively expresses each one. Repeated values are expected in these different sections and are an invitation for further reflection.
Questions for discussion:
- Which of the values are those that are shared with or in conflict with your special person who died?
- Which of the values are you wanting to focus on more in this season of your life?
- Which of the values conflict with how you are living your life today? Where does the conflict arise and how do you feel when it does? What are you willing to do to resolve the conflict?
- Helpful tip: Script a response that aligns with your values and sets boundaries, practice coping strategies, ask a trusted friend or adult for support in managing these conflicts.
- How will you live these values out in your day-to-day life?
- Is there anything you would like to change about your values or how you are living?
- Share your values tree with someone who knows and cares for you.
Snowflakes – Youth Activity Ages 3 – 12
Snowflakes are unique. Each one is different and beautiful. Memories of your special person are like snowflakes too. Make snowflake memories to connect to your special person!
With an adult’s help use paper to cut out snowflakes. On each snowflake, write a memory or draw a picture about your special person. Ask for permission to tape them up on the walls, ceilings, doors, etc., and see how beautiful it can be to remember. Share your beautiful snowflakes memories with others.
Adults you can cut snowflakes out, find free snowflake templates and other creative ideas online, or buy them.
“Always and Forever” by Alan Durant